You are on Your Own

Started my day at work, as usual, not knowing what is going to happen
next, what news will come, or will it be good or bad. We all go with our
usual routine and manage to pass the day as it comes and hits us. Heard
the news about one of my colleagues who lost his brother to neuro
disease, his mother a covid patient stuck in the hospital, his father a
cancer patient and on top of it, floods have ruined his home and cattle.
What is he going through and the tragedy struck him, only he knows it,
no one can understand the agony and pain he is feeling.

We all face life’s challenges, sometimes hard, sometimes worse and there
are times when we lose our hope in the existence of being in the world.
These are the times when you seek support and empathy. One does not
seek, but the loved ones who care for you do come at such time to be
with you and be supportive. They want their friend or loved one to feel
safe and not feel alone. But most of the time we see that the person who
is getting through the tough times wants to be left alone, with the pain
and thoughts he/she is feeling. And yes, at times they want to be
surrounded by their friends and loves one whom he/she trusts and can
share the pain and knows they do understand what I am going through.

Every individual in this world is going thru some sort of pain, it can
be losing anything which that person is attached to or had dreamt of but
didn’t find or was not able to get or loss of the Loved one. Why do we
always end up in pain and feeling miserable and unwanted? Why do people
feel cursed and judged?

One’s happiness is another person’s jealousy; people are so judgmental
and cruel. One cannot see the other individual content or happy because
it itches the one who feels why is this person happy and not me or why
this person has “x” thing and not me. There is always competition and
race to be ahead of one another, I don’t know about the West but in
South Asia e.g., in India, this jealousy and competitiveness with one
another are more prevalent whether between friends or relations or even
among neighbors. People need to grow and be mature and have a sense of
respect for one another, appreciate what others have, and feel good
about it rather than saying the question, WHY?

Coming back to my topic of being on your own, as per my perspective is
the reality for everyone. Say I am going through hell and it’s killing
me, it’s only me no one can understand the real story of pain behind it
which as an individual I am feeling. The other person can empathize with
me and even show sympathy, but the real sorrow and pain is mine which
not even my parents can see or feel.

What a person goes through, and faces can be felt by yourself, and no
one can understand that it’s a reality, a fact. So, we need to be strong
and know how to face tough situations. You don’t need anyone to feel
sorry for you or for the situation you are facing. You need yourself and
understand the fact that this is my pain, and I only can and will handle
this and come out of this mess as a winner. Sometimes are so hard that
we can’t handle it, no matter how much support we get still at the end
of the day it’s you and you only who need to decide what to do and how
to go about it.

You are enough for yourself if you know what you believe in and how to
handle the circumstances and challenges you face. Be thoughtful, always
think right with maturity and Be You.